Episode 45

One Man’s Breast Cancer Journey

with Rene Valdry

What does it look like when a man who is wired to strategize and stay in control faces a diagnosis he never expected?

Male breast cancer is rarely discussed, yet it carries the same weight of fear, uncertainty, and identity shift as any cancer journey. In this thoughtful conversation, Rene Valdry shares what it was like to hear the words stage three breast cancer and begin navigating treatment while continuing to show up for work, family, and himself.

Rene and Darcie explore the emotional reality men may struggle to express. They talk about the loss of control, the quiet anger, and the vulnerability of speaking the diagnosis out loud. They reflect on continuing to work during treatment, leaning on trusted friendships, and finding strength through support groups and shared experience.

At its heart, this conversation centers on awareness, community, and the subtle ways cancer reshapes how a person listens, leads, and lives. His story is a reminder that even when life narrows to one step at a time, hope remains steady in connection and presence

Highlights

  • How noticing a subtle physical change during an ordinary workout led to a life-altering diagnosis
  • Why male breast cancer often goes undetected and under-discussed
  • What it means to surrender control when you are wired to strategize outcomes
  • Hear how continuing to work during treatment created stability and purpose
  • Discover the emotional complexity men may experience but struggle to express
  • Learn why community, peer support, and shared experience change the cancer journey

Mentioned Resources:

CanCare- www.cancare.org

Book – www.cancare.org/hopebook

About the Guest:  

Rene Valdry is a male breast cancer survivor and advocate raising awareness about a disease most people don't realize affects men. Diagnosed with Stage III breast cancer in 2023 after noticing something unusual during a workout, his journey has deepened his faith and shaped his commitment to supporting others through cancer. Throughout treatment, Rene continued working while leaning on his faith, a support group, and his community. He describes a quiet intuition he's developed: the ability to recognize another cancer survivor before a word is spoken.

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